Good repost of some rules (a little dated) but still apply

                  Some rules kids won't learn in school
                        Text By Charles J. Sykes

                   Printed in San Diego Union Tribune 
                           September 19, 1996

Unfortunately, there are some things that children should be learning in
school, but don't. Not all of them have to do with academics. As a modest
back-to-school offering, here are some basic rules that may not have found
their way into the standard curriculum.

Rule No. 1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teen-ager uses the
phrase, "It's not fair" 8.6 times a day. You got it from your parents, who
said it so often you decided they must be the most idealistic generation
ever. When they started hearing it from their own kids, they realized Rule
No. 1.

Rule No. 2: The real world won't care as much about your self-esteem as much
as your school does. It'll expect you to accomplish something before you
feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated
self-esteem meets reality, kids complain it's not fair. (See Rule No. 1)

Rule No. 3: Sorry, you won't make $40,000 a year right out of high school.
And you won't be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even
have to wear a uniform that doesn't have a Gap label.

Rule No. 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait 'til you get a boss. He
doesn't have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he's
not going to ask you how you feel about it.

Rule No. 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grand-parents
had a different word of burger flipping. They called it opportunity. They
weren't embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been
embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend.

Rule No. 6: It's not your parents' fault. If you screw up, you are
responsible. This is the flip side of "It's my life," and "You're not the
boss of me," and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you
turn 18, it's on your dime. Don't whine about it, or you'll sound like a
baby boomer.

Rule No. 7: Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are
now. They got that way paying your bills, cleaning up your room and
listening to you tell them how idealistic you are. And by the way, before
you save the rain forest from the blood-sucking parasites of your parents'
generation, try delousing the closet in your bedroom.

Rule No. 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life
hasn't. In some schools, they'll give you as many times as you want to get
the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class
valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone's feelings be hurt. Effort is as
important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance
to anything in real life. (See Rule No. 1, Rule No. 2 and Rule No. 4)

Rule No. 9: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don't get summers
off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day. For eight
hours. And you don't get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on.
While we're at it, very few jobs are interesting in fostering your
self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to
self-realization. (See Rule No. 1 and Rule No. 2.)

Rule No. 10: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your
problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials.
In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs.
Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston.

Rule No. 11: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all

Rule No. 12: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic.
Next time you're out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his
mouth. That's what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for "expressing
yourself" with purple hair and/or pierced body parts.

Rule No. 13: You are not immortal. (See Rule No. 12.) If you are under the
impression that living fast, dying young and leaving a beautiful corpse is
romantic, you obviously haven't seen one of your peers at room temperature

Rule No. 14: Enjoy this while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school's a
bother, and life is depressing. But someday you'll realize how wonderful it
was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now.

You're welcome.

UX Holistics

There is an evolution of the discipline and practice of experience architecture and this along with the process, I will attempt to describe what I’ve seen and what teams have begun to evolve toward.

Experience Architecture
Design and Development
Marketing & Media

All disciplines are components of UX Holistics..
Which is to say the cohesion and consolidation of functional components with strategic vision and puts the user in the center. An approach that looks at the business, the experience and stories being told by brands and solves for that in the experience architecture.


Running Reflection

A moment of zen for those that don’t think they can, haven’t yet or are far to fast to care…never give up

The image is of the last 4 times i ran that same 5k i ran yesterday (sat) the fastest id ever run before…while not the fastest in the universe—for me its a milestone run. This was my first 5k. I’m trying to mark progress. None of this crap happens over night or without large scale commitment and help from countless people who i have run with including Jimbo. (

In between these 4 runs is a ton of running countless times with Mary Malley and the Collegeville Runners. Many half marathons, 5 milers, 10 milers, tough mudders and mudder trainings and all sorts of other self-punishment for years of laziness and quitting—a lot of quitting. I can say after 4 years I think I know less about fitness and more about how little I know, than I thought possible. But I have finally started to get to know myself, what limits I have and don’t have and that is worth all the miles.

Turns out i/you have very few. On the back of my shirt for my first 10miler (broadstreet) it read, ‘All i gotta do to feel like a winner is outrun you fatty—never give up’ Snarky, yes but true. That was a hard 10 miles, straight and slightly downhill…and now(4 years later) i run tough mudders barefoot (vibrams)…I almost have trouble running unless we can stop and climb sh’t or do a pull-up or carry of rock up a hill (which i could never do and quit trying at a point in my past and now i do 5 sets 6-7 reps each so 32 is my max right now and most might think thats stupid and lame, who cares)

So regardless of the performance in any one run you have, slow and sucky, aggravating, painful, long, rainy, snowy, muddy—you get to run. Get your sh*t together, make the excuses while your getting your sneaks on, tell yourself how tired you are, how warm your bed is, blame your children (oh thats nice), how work is crazy—seen my schedule lately or Francesco Russo‘s his is retarded. And when you do p90x and the Plyo vid has a guy with a wooden leg, or the tough mudder has you climbing over obstacles and you spot the old guy with one leg pull himself over…you immediately shut that fat, lazy, pathetic mouth and keep moving.

Just run to the stop sign…statistically there is one less than a mile from your home or apt. Don’t run, walk briskly, don’t even do that, just walk yourself there. If my fat, busy, inherently lazy, procrastinatingly distracted, serially traveling, late night posting self can manage, so can you.

I’ve got many miles to go, and much to make up for, one mile at a time. And ya know what, I’m grateful and ok with it.